Dear Everyone,
You guys probably know me already but if not my name is Angelisa Hassan. I wanted to start this thing called love/respect week this story is actually the reason why. I can't believe I'm writing this but someone stop me. You guys probably don't care but I want to become an activist or an advocate for domestic violence. Especially for children who witness it and I really want to break the cycle of violence.
You may not know this but my mom is a domestic violence survivor. She's been through so much. We had a long story but I'm going to make it short. In April 2003 we left my dad. I could remember that day so well. She was so scared. I was nine and I didn't know what was going on. She had a lepard duffle bag and her bible in her hand. I guess we didn't know what to expect what my dad will do since he jumped on my mom a month before. He hit my mom a couple of times before. Every hit it had gotten worse and worse. He hit my mom so much I almost thought it was normal thing to do.
So we left and went into the domestic violence shelter. We stayed for about 3 weeks until we got kicked out. Fortunately my mom already bought an apartment in Canton but we had no furniture and we couldn't afford to pay the bills. Are church had to help us with that. My mom filed an restraining order. But I still had to visit him. He didn't know where I lived so I had to go to my grandmas and he had to come pick me up and drop me off there. But somehow he found out where I live and somehow broke the resstraining order. So he could to my moms apartment. I thought it would have been better that way but on the inside I was scared.
I stoped seeing him when I got into middle school for some reason in the 6th grade. Then he came one night unexpected on Nov. 4 or 7 2004. We talked a little bit but he wanted to take me somewhere but my mom said no because it was time for me to eat my dinner which was salad. My mom kept on saying no then he got mad and jumped on her. He was choking her on the table and I kept on telling him to stop and I told him to go. That was the last time I had seen my dad.
Today, we're doing good I'm a senior in high school who is going to go to Schoolcraft next fall and then transfer to some university. Well my mom is still mom. She has gotten stronger because of this experience than I have. But we still suffer she has anxiety, and depression. I have depression and post traumatic stress syndrome or disorder. And I'm very quiet than I use to be before we moved out here in Canton in 2003. Still am. My dad tries to still keep in touch with me through facebook. He use to go by a name of a girl name Angel Nicci. Some of my facebook friends were friends with him today. I don't want to see him but I still love him he's my dad.
I know what you are thinking. Why do I need to know this sad story? It's none of my business. I just wanted people to know why I started a Love/Respect Week. And why I'm so quiet I guess. Don't feel sorry for me because I'm going to make a difference and I'm going to be an activist and an advocate for kids who witness domestic violence. And I just want you to know my story. If you know me and you read my story please don't treat me any differently. That's why I started this blog also Invisible Victims. I just don't want another kid or family that has been through what I have been through cause no kid should be scared of their dad and experience what I experience, but they are some kids who do this very minute.
From Angelisa Hassan
P.S. Don't treat me any differently or feel sorry for me. I'm ok. Just respect the people you love and hate.
I am so proud of you for writing this. I think you are an amazing person.
ReplyDeleteI love you. You're so strong. Keep up being strong. You have a beautiful dream/goal to be an activist.
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hey, I never knew this about you ! this will make you stronger, & you should write a book ! I'm attending this week& help make a difference
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Angelisa,
ReplyDeleteI am so proud of you for having the the strength to share this. A Love and Respect week is a beautiful idea, and I thank you for coming up with it. Keep being brave, I know your story will inspire many people to be kinder, as it has for me. Chase your goal of becoming an activist :)
You are an amazing and couragous girl for having the strength to share your story with the world. You are an inspiration to young women and girls everywhere! -Ani
ReplyDeletethak you for the story, i really appreciate it -it helps to share stories like these and shine a light on abuse - maybe one day there will be enough light to outshine thed dark. . .
ReplyDeletei have a simiar story. Please read it:
http://normaltoeatpb.blogspot.com/2011/02/fists-and-blood.html
Thank you queen for your story and someone direct me to your blog, you can contact me on Facebook: through tara eyes and i have a you tube video: divine 3231. Queen you are not by yourself and you are not alone. I' am very proud of you and keep on moving forward and i will display your page on my sights as much as i can. keep in touch with me and let me know who you are when you come my way. peace and keep being strong.
ReplyDeleteHey Tudda, I'm glad you got that off your chest. I think love/respect week is a wonderful idea. Do me a favor, go to YOUTUBE and type "angelisa hassan" in the search box and look at the video i made for you. post another comment on this website and let me know what you think. I love you and miss you very much.
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